1) NOT KISSING FIRST.
Avoiding her lips and diving straight for the erogenous zones
makes her feel like you're paying by the hour and trying to get
your money's worth by cutting out nonessentials. A proper
passionate kiss is the ultimate form of foreplay.
2) BLOWING TOO HARD IN HER EAR.
Admit it, some kid at school told you girls love this. Well,
there's a difference between being erotic and blowing as if
you're trying to extinguish the candles on your 50th birthday
cake. That hurts.
3) NOT SHAVING.
You often forget you have a porcupine strapped to your chin
which you rake repeatedly across your partner's face and
thighs. When she turns her head from side to side, it's not
passion, it's avoidance.
4) SQUEEZING HER BREAST.
Most men act like a housewife testing a melon for ripeness when
they get their hand on a pair. Stroke, caress, and smooth them.
5) BITING HER NIPPLES.
Why do men fasten onto a woman's nipples, then clamp down like
they're trying to deflate her body via her breasts? Nipples are
highly sensitive. They can't stand up to chewing. Lick and suck
them gently. Flicking your tongue across them is good.
Pretending they're a doggie toy isn't.
6) TWIDDLING HER NIPPLES.
Stop doing that thing where you twiddle the nipples between
finger and thumb like you're trying to find a radio station in
a hilly area. Focus on the whole breasts, not just the
exclamation points.
7) IGNORING THE OTHER PARTS OF HER BODY.
A woman is not a highway with just three turnoffs: Breastville
East and West, and the Midtown Tunnel. There are vast areas of
her body which you've ignored far too often as you go bombing
straight into downtown Vagina. So start paying them some
attention.
8) GETTING THE HAND TRAPPED.
Poor manual dexterity in the underskirt region can result in
tangled fingers and underpants. If you're going to be that
aggressive, just ask her to take the damn things off.
9) LEAVING HER A LITTLE PRESENT.
Condom disposal is the man's responsibility. You wore it, you
store it.
10) ATTACKING THE CLITORIS.
Direct pressure is very unpleasant, so gently rotate your
fingers along side of the clitoris.
11) STOPPING FOR A BREAK.
Women, unlike men, don't pick up where they left off. If you
stop, they plummet back to square one very fast. If you can
tell she's not there, keep going at all costs, numb jaw or not.
12) UNDRESSING HER AWKWARDLY.
Women hate looking stupid, but stupid she will look when naked
at the waist with a sweater stuck over her head. Unwrap her
like an elegant present, not a kid's toy.
13) GIVING HER A WEDGIE DURING FOREPLAY.
Stroking her gently through her panties can be very sexy.
Pulling the material up between her thighs and yanking it back
and forth is not.
14) BEING OBSESSED WITH THE VAGINA.
Although most men can find the clitoris without maps, they
still believe that the vagina is where it's all at. No sooner
is your hand down there than you're trying to stuff stolen
banknotes up a chimney. This is okay in principle, but if
you're not careful, it can hurt - so don't get carried away.
It's best to pay more attention to her clitoris and the
exterior of her vagina at first, then gently slip a finger
inside her and see if she likes it.
15) MASSAGING TOO ROUGHLY.
You're attempting to give her a sensual, relaxing massage to
get her in the mood. Hands and fingertips are okay; elbows and
knees are not.
16) UNDRESSING PREMATURELY.
Don't force the issue by stripping before she's at least made
some move toward getting your stuff off, even if it's just
undoing a couple of buttons.
17) TAKING YOUR PANTS OFF FIRST.
A man in socks and underpants is a at his worst. Lose the socks
fist.
18) GOING TOO FAST.
When you get to the penis-in-vagina situation, the worst thing
you can do is pump away like an industrial power tool - she'll
soon feel like an assembly-line worker made obsolete by your
technology. Build up slowly, with clean, straight, regular
thrusts.
19) GOING TOO HARD.
If you bash your great triangular hip bones into her thigh or
stomach, the pain is equal to two weeks of horseback riding
concentrated into a few seconds.
20) COMING TOO SOON.
Every man's fear. With reason. If you shoot before you see the
whites of her eyes, make sure you have a backup plan to ensure
her pleasure too.
21) NOT COMING SOON ENOUGH.
It may appear to you that humping for an hour without climaxing
is the mark of a sex god, but to her it's more likely the mark
of a numb vagina. At least buy some intriguing wall hangings,
so she has something to hold her interest while you're playing
Marathon Man.
22) ASKING IF SHE HAS COME.
You really ought to be able to tell. Most women make noise. But
if you really don't know, don't ask.
23) PERFORMING ORAL SEX TOO GENTLY.
Don't act like a giant cat at a saucer of milk. Get your whole
mouth down there, and concentrate on gently rotating or
flicking your tongue on her clitoris.
24) NUDGING HER HEAD DOWN.
Men persist in doing this until she's eyeball-to-penis, hoping
that it will lead very swiftly to mouth-to-penis. All women
hate this. It's about three steps from being dragged to a cave
by their hair. If you want her to use her mouth, use yours; try
talking seductively to her.
25) NOT WARNING HER BEFORE YOU CLIMAX.
Sperm tastes like sea water mixed with egg white. Not everybody
likes it. When she's performing oral sex, warn her before you
come so she can do what's necessary.
26) MOVING AROUND DURING FELLATIO.
Don't thrust. She'll do all the moving during fellatio. You
just lie there. And don't grab her head.
27) TAKING ETIQUETTE ADVICE FROM PORN MOVIES.
In X-rated movies, women seem to love it when men ejaculate
over them. In real life, it just means more laundry to do.
28) MAKING HER RIDE ON TOP FOR AGES.
Asking her to be on top is fine. Lying there grunting while she
does all the hard work is not. Caress her gently, so that she
doesn't feel quite so much like the captain of a schooner. And
let her have a rest.
29) ATTEMPTING ANAL SEX AND PRETENDING IT WAS AN ACCIDENT.
This is how men earn a reputation for not being able to follow
directions. If you want to put it there, ask her first. And
don't think that being drunk is an excuse.
30) TAKING PICTURES.
When a man says, "Can I take a photo of you?" she'll hear the
words "__to show my buddies." At least let her have custody of
them.
31) NOT BEING IMAGINATIVE ENOUGH.
Imagination is anything from drawing patterns on her back to
pouring honey on her and licking it off. Fruit, vegetables, ice
and feathers are all handy props; hot candle wax and permanent
dye are a no no.
32) SLAPPING YOUR STOMACH AGAINST HERS.
There is no less erotic noise. It's as sexy as a belching
contest.
33) ARRANGING HER IN STUPID POSES.
If she wants to do advanced yoga in bed, fine, but unless she's
a Romanian gymnast, don't get too ambitious. Ask yourself if
you want a sexual partner with snapped hamstrings.
34) LOOKING FOR HER PROSTATE.
Read this carefully: Anal stimulation feels good for men
because they have a prostate. Women don't.
35) GIVING LOVE BITES.
It is highly erotic to exert some gentle suction on the sides
of the neck, if you do it carefully. No woman wants to have to
wear turtlenecks and jaunty scarves for weeks on end.
36) BARKING INSTRUCTIONS.
Don't shout encouragement like a coach with a megaphone. It's
not a big turn-on.
37) TALKING DIRTY.
It makes you sound like a lonely magazine editor calling a 1-
900 line. If she likes nasty talk, she'll let you know.
38) NOT CARING WHETHER SHE COMES.
You have to finish the job. Keep on trying until you get it
right, and she might even do the same for you.
39) SQUASHING HER.
Men generally weigh more than women, so if you lie on her a bit
too heavily, she will turn blue.
40) THANKING HER.
Never thank a woman for having sex with you. Your bedroom is not a soup kitchen.
